Top 11 'Empathy-Building' App Adventures to do at Home for Raising Kinder Preschoolers This Year - Goh Ling Yong
In today's hyper-connected world, the conversation around screen time for our little ones is often filled with anxiety. We worry about passive consumption, shortened attention spans, and the potential for social disconnection. But what if we could flip the script? What if we could transform that tablet or smartphone into a powerful tool for teaching one of the most crucial human skills: empathy?
Here at the Goh Ling Yong blog, we believe that intentional, shared screen time can become a bridge to understanding, a launchpad for crucial conversations about feelings, and a fun way to practice kindness. Raising an emotionally intelligent, compassionate child doesn't mean shunning technology entirely. It means curating it, engaging with it, and using it as a springboard for real-world connection and learning.
That’s why we’ve curated this list of 11 "empathy-building" app adventures. These aren’t specific app names that will be outdated next month. Instead, they are types of digital experiences you can seek out and, most importantly, do with your preschooler. Think of this as your treasure map to finding digital gold that helps you raise a kinder, more compassionate human being this year.
1. The Feeling Finder Quest
This type of app is fundamental to building empathy. It's a game focused on emotional literacy—the ability to identify and name feelings in oneself and others. These apps typically present characters in various situations and ask your child to match the character's facial expression to an emotion, like "happy," "sad," "angry," or "surprised."
By turning emotional recognition into a playful quest, these apps give preschoolers a low-stakes way to practice a complex social skill. They learn to look for visual cues—a downturned mouth, wide eyes, or furrowed brows—and connect them to an abstract feeling. This is the very first step in being able to say, "My friend looks sad. I wonder what's wrong."
Pro-Tip: Don't just let them play alone. Sit with them and narrate the experience. Say, "Oh, look at the bunny! He dropped his carrot. How do you think he feels? Yes, he looks sad. What makes you feel sad sometimes?" This simple act connects the on-screen game to your child's own lived experiences, making the lesson stick.
2. The Perspective-Taking Portal
Once a child can identify emotions, the next step is understanding that others have different thoughts and feelings. Perspective-taking apps are interactive stories that allow your child to see a single event from multiple points of view. Imagine a story about two friends arguing over a toy. The app might let you tap on one character's head to hear their thoughts ("I had it first!") and then tap on the other's to hear theirs ("But I never get a turn!").
This is a game-changer for preschoolers, who are naturally egocentric. It digitally simulates the advanced cognitive feat of "putting yourself in someone else's shoes." It shows them that in any disagreement, there isn't just one side to the story. It gently introduces the idea that other people's wants and needs are just as valid as their own.
Pro-Tip: After the story, create a real-world scenario. Use two of their favorite stuffed animals. "Mr. Bear wants to build a tall tower, but Kitty wants to knock it down. How do you think Mr. Bear feels? What about Kitty? What could they do so they can both have fun?" This transfers the digital lesson into a tangible, playful practice.
3. The Kindness Creator Studio
These apps are all about action. They provide a digital sandbox where children can perform virtual acts of kindness and see the immediate, positive results. This could involve sharing a digital snack with a hungry character, helping another character find a lost item, or giving a crying friend a virtual hug.
The power of these apps lies in positive reinforcement. When your child performs a kind act, the character on screen smiles, the music becomes cheerful, and they might even earn a star. This creates a direct, positive feedback loop: being kind feels good and makes others happy. It’s a way to practice prosocial behaviors over and over again in a fun, rewarding environment.
Pro-Tip: Keep a "Kindness Jar" at home. Every time your child completes a kindness challenge in the app, or even better, performs a real act of kindness (like sharing a toy with a sibling), let them put a pom-pom in the jar. When the jar is full, celebrate with a special treat or family activity.
4. The Global Friends Village
Empathy extends beyond our immediate circle. Apps that introduce children to different cultures are fantastic for building a foundation of acceptance and curiosity. Look for simple, beautifully designed apps that let your child explore a "village" of friends from around the world. They can tap on a house in Japan to see how people eat with chopsticks, visit a home in Ghana to hear djembe drums, or see the clothes children wear in India for Diwali.
These digital adventures broaden your child’s worldview in a gentle, age-appropriate way. They teach the crucial lesson that "different" isn't scary or weird—it's wonderful and interesting. This early exposure helps prevent the formation of biases and fosters an inclusive mindset from the very beginning.
Pro-Tip: Connect the app to your real life. After exploring a virtual friend's home, try cooking a simple recipe from that country together, listen to music from that culture on a streaming service, or find that country on a world map or globe.
5. The Cooperative Challenge Corner
Many games are competitive, but a growing number of apps for preschoolers are designed for cooperation. These games require two players—perfect for a parent and child—to work together to achieve a common goal. Maybe you each have to control a character and time your jumps perfectly to cross a bridge, or you have to solve a puzzle where each of you only has half the pieces.
This type of play is a masterclass in teamwork, communication, and managing frustration. Your child learns that they can achieve more with a partner than they can alone. They have to listen to your ideas, share their own, and navigate the small disappointments of a failed attempt together. It’s a powerful way to model a healthy, collaborative relationship.
Pro-Tip: Be verbal during gameplay. Say things like, "Okay, I'll press my button when you say 'go!' Ready?" or "Uh oh, that didn't work. What should we try next? You have a great idea!" This models effective communication and problem-solving out loud.
6. The "What Would You Do?" Storybook
These are the modern-day "Choose Your Own Adventure" books, but with a social-emotional twist. These interactive story apps present the main character with a common preschool dilemma—someone cuts in line, a friend won't share, another child says something mean—and then the story pauses. It asks your child: "What should the character do next?"
Your child is then presented with a few choices, each leading to a different outcome. This empowers them to think through the consequences of their actions in a safe space. It encourages critical thinking about social situations and helps them build a mental playbook of positive, empathetic responses they can use when they face similar challenges at preschool or on the playground.
Pro-Tip: Talk about the "why" behind their choices. If they choose the "share the toy" option, ask them, "Why was that a kind choice? How do you think it made the other character feel?" This reinforces the reasoning behind prosocial behavior.
7. The Animal Caretaker Chronicles
For many children, their first experience with profound empathy is for an animal. Virtual pet apps can be a wonderful training ground for this. Look for apps that go beyond simple dress-up and focus on the pet's needs and emotions. The pet needs to be fed when it's hungry, cleaned when it's dirty, and played with when it's bored or sad.
These apps teach responsibility and attunement. Your child learns to pay attention to another being's non-verbal cues and respond to its needs. This simple, repetitive cycle of caregiving builds the "empathy muscle" and teaches them that their actions directly impact the well-being of another creature, even a virtual one.
Pro-Tip: Link the app to how you care for a real family pet, a plant, or even each other. "See how the digital puppy is happy when you feed him? Our dog, Sparky, gets happy too! That's why we have to remember to fill his bowl every morning."
8. The Consequence Cauldron
Sometimes, the most effective way to learn is by seeing a clear, immediate result. "Consequence" apps are simple cause-and-effect games focused on social interactions. If you tap a button to make one character share with another, the second character smiles and a happy sound plays. If you tap the button to make them snatch a toy, the other character cries and the screen might turn a little grey.
For a preschooler's developing brain, this direct feedback is invaluable. It removes all ambiguity. The lesson is simple and visceral: kind actions lead to happy outcomes, and unkind actions lead to sad ones. It’s a very concrete way of illustrating the abstract impact our behavior has on those around us.
Pro-Tip: Use gentle, non-judgmental language. Instead of "See, that was bad," try "Oh, look. When the bear took the toy, it made the squirrel feel sad. His face looks so unhappy. I wonder what we could do to help him feel better?"
9. "My Turn, Your Turn" Tunes
Patience and turn-taking are cornerstones of respectful social interaction, and they can be incredibly difficult for preschoolers to master. Music and rhythm games that are designed for two players can be a fantastic, fun way to practice this skill.
These apps might involve one player tapping out a simple rhythm that the other player has to copy, or a game where you build a song together, each adding one musical note at a time. The game only works if you wait, listen, and respect your partner's turn. It's a joyful way to learn the give-and-take of social harmony without a single lecture about "why we don't interrupt."
Pro-Tip: Start with very simple patterns and celebrate every successful round of turn-taking. High-fives and little cheers go a long way in reinforcing the positive feeling of successful cooperation.
10. The Emotional Weather Report
Before children can understand others' feelings, they need a basic awareness of their own. A digital "feeling journal" can be a perfect tool for this. These apps provide a simple interface where, once a day, your child can pick an emoji or animated character that represents how they're feeling—sunny for happy, rainy for sad, stormy for angry.
This simple check-in ritual helps normalize talking about feelings. It gives them a vocabulary for their inner world and sends the message that all feelings are okay. Over time, this self-awareness becomes the foundation upon which they can build an understanding of and empathy for the feelings of others.
Pro-Tip: Make this part of your daily routine, perhaps before bed. You choose your "emotional weather," too. This models that adults have feelings as well and opens the door for simple conversations: "I see you picked the stormy cloud. Did something make you feel angry today?"
11. Helpful Heroes Headquarters
Preschoolers love to feel powerful and heroic. Apps that frame helping others as a fun, heroic mission can be incredibly motivating. These games let children take on the role of a community helper—a doctor putting a bandage on a scraped knee, a firefighter rescuing a cat from a tree, or a chef sharing food with a hungry person.
By playing the role of a "helper," children internalize the idea that contributing to the well-being of their community is a positive and rewarding identity. It reframes kindness not just as a "nice" thing to do, but as a strong, important, and heroic act. This can be a powerful motivator for real-world helpfulness. As a parenting mentor, Goh Ling Yong often speaks about nurturing a child's intrinsic desire to contribute, and these apps tap directly into that.
Pro-Tip: Spot and praise "helpful hero" behavior in real life. "Wow, you helped me put the groceries away! That was just like the helpful hero in your game. Thank you so much!"
From Pixels to People
The key to all these app adventures is you. Technology, when used as a solitary pacifier, can indeed create disconnection. But when you get on the floor, share the screen, and use these digital stories and games as a catalyst for conversation, they become powerful tools for connection.
These apps aren't a replacement for real-world social interaction, but a supplement—a training ground where your child can practice complex social skills in a fun, repeatable, and safe environment. Use them to introduce a concept, and then spend the rest of the day finding that concept in your books, your play, and your conversations.
So, the next time you hand your preschooler the tablet, don't just see it as five minutes of peace. See it as an opportunity. An opportunity to go on an adventure in empathy, to plant the seeds of kindness, and to build a stronger emotional vocabulary, together.
What are your favorite ways—digital or analog—to teach empathy? Share your best tips and resources in the comments below!
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