Top 17 'Empathy-Engine-Building' Educational Toys to explore for Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids in 2025 - Goh Ling Yong
In a world that feels increasingly complex and disconnected, what’s the one superpower we wish we could give our children? If you ask me, it’s not the ability to code before they can read or to master a third language by age six. It’s empathy. The profound, world-changing ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the bedrock of a happy, successful, and fulfilling life. It’s the key to navigating friendships, resolving conflicts, and becoming a compassionate leader. But here’s the secret: empathy isn’t a trait kids are simply born with. It’s a skill that needs to be built, nurtured, and practiced. Like a muscle, it grows stronger with exercise.
So, how do we, as parents, create an effective "emotional gym" for our kids? The answer is simpler and more joyful than you might think: through play. The right kinds of toys are more than just entertainment; they are powerful tools for development. They are empathy-engines, designed to help our children explore complex social situations, label big feelings, and practice seeing the world from someone else’s point of view.
Get ready to update your wish lists. Here are the top 17 empathy-engine-building educational toys to explore for raising emotionally intelligent kids in 2025.
1. Cooperative Board Games
Forget the soul-crushing despair of Chutes and Ladders. The future of family game night is collaborative. Cooperative board games require players to work together towards a common goal against the game itself. Whether you’re trying to help owls get home before sunrise or gather food for the winter, the focus is on teamwork, shared strategy, and collective success or failure.
These games are a masterclass in social-emotional learning (SEL). They teach children how to communicate ideas, listen to others' suggestions, and handle setbacks as a team. When the "opponent" is the game board, kids learn to cheer each other on instead of celebrating individual wins. This "we're in this together" mentality is a direct line to building a strong sense of community and empathy.
Pro Tip: After a game, talk about the process. Ask questions like, "What was a moment when we really worked well as a team?" or "How did it feel when we thought we were going to lose? What helped us keep trying?"
2. Social-Emotional Learning Dolls (like Kimochis®)
These aren't your average dolls. SEL dolls are specifically designed with feelings in mind. Often, they come with a set of "feeling pillows" or facial expressions that children can attach to the doll to represent emotions like happy, sad, angry, or brave. They provide a tangible, safe way for kids to explore and express emotions they might not have the words for yet.
Using these dolls, you can act out scenarios. What happens when the doll feels left out? How can we help the doll when it feels frustrated? This externalizes the emotion, allowing a child to problem-solve from a third-person perspective without feeling personally overwhelmed. It’s a gentle, playful introduction to emotional literacy and compassionate action.
Pro Tip: Keep the dolls and their "feelings" in an accessible place. When your child is having a big emotion, you can say, "Can you show me on your doll how you're feeling right now?" It can be a powerful communication bridge.
3. Puppets and a Simple Puppet Theater
There's a special kind of magic that happens when a child puts a puppet on their hand. They're no longer just a kid; they're a shy lion, a grumpy king, or a silly monster. Puppets provide a safe "mask" behind which children can explore different personalities, perspectives, and social situations. They can act out a conflict they had at school or practice standing up for someone, all through the voice of the puppet.
This is perspective-taking in its purest form. When a child makes two puppets interact, they are literally managing two different points of view simultaneously. They have to think, "What would the wolf say? And how would the rabbit feel about that?" This imaginative exercise is a workout for their empathy muscles.
Pro Tip: You don't need a fancy theater. A blanket draped over two chairs works perfectly. Let your child lead the show and be an engaged audience member. Ask follow-up questions about the characters' motivations and feelings.
4. A High-Quality Doctor or Veterinarian Kit
A simple toy stethoscope is a gateway to compassion. When children play doctor, veterinarian, or caregiver, they are practicing nurturing and care. They are focused entirely on the well-being of their "patient"—be it a teddy bear, a sibling, or the family dog. This type of play encourages them to think about others' comfort, pain, and needs.
Listen to the language they use: "Don't worry, this won't hurt." "You're being so brave!" "Let me check your heartbeat to make sure you're okay." They are rehearsing the language of empathy. This play pattern helps them connect the concepts of being hurt or sick with the acts of kindness and healing.
Pro Tip: Add to the play by creating a "clinic." Use tape to make a waiting room, and create patient charts for their stuffed animals, listing their imaginary ailments and the care they received.
5. Storytelling Cubes or Cards
Tools like Rory's Story Cubes® or other narrative-prompt cards are fantastic for building both creativity and emotional intelligence. Each cube or card has a simple image, and the goal is to weave them together into a coherent story. To do this, a child must create characters, imagine their motivations, and think about cause and effect from an emotional standpoint.
Why did the princess run away from the castle (the image on the cube)? Maybe she felt lonely. What happens when she meets the giant (the next image)? Maybe he's not scary; maybe he's just sad. These toys push kids beyond a simple sequence of events and into the "why" behind characters' actions, which is the heart of understanding others.
Pro Tip: Make it a collaborative family activity. Each person adds one sentence to the story based on the next cube. This teaches kids to build on others' ideas and create a shared narrative.
6. LEGO® or Building Blocks with a Purpose
Building blocks are a classic for a reason, but we can elevate their empathy-building power by adding intention to the play. Instead of just building the tallest tower, introduce collaborative, community-focused challenges. This is a core belief we hold here on the Goh Ling Yong blog: purpose-driven play leads to deeper learning.
Give them prompts like: "Let's build a playground where a child in a wheelchair can play on everything." or "Can we design an animal shelter where every animal feels safe and happy?" These challenges force children to think about the needs, abilities, and feelings of others and incorporate those considerations into their physical designs.
Pro Tip: Take a walk around your neighborhood and have your child identify things that make life better for people (benches for resting, ramps for strollers). Then, try to recreate those helpful features in your block city.
7. Feelings Flashcards and Puzzles
For younger children, simply learning to identify and name emotions is the first giant leap toward empathy. High-quality feelings flashcards or puzzles show clear pictures of faces expressing a range of emotions—not just happy and sad, but also surprised, frustrated, proud, and confused.
Normalizing conversations about feelings is crucial. These tools give you a natural starting point. You can play matching games, mimic the faces, and talk about a time you felt that way. This builds a child's "feelings vocabulary," empowering them to articulate their own inner world and recognize emotions in others.
Pro Tip: Use the cards to "check in" at the end of the day. Let each family member choose a card that represents how they're feeling and share a little bit about why.
8. Gardening and Plant Care Kits
Empathy isn't just for people; it extends to all living things. A simple gardening kit that allows a child to plant a seed and watch it grow is a profound lesson in patience, responsibility, and nurturing. The plant's survival depends entirely on their care—it needs them to provide water, sunlight, and a safe place to grow.
This slow, gentle process teaches children about the needs of a living organism that cannot speak for itself. They learn to observe subtle cues—are the leaves drooping? Is the soil dry? This practice of attentive observation is a skill that translates directly to noticing the subtle emotional cues in their friends and family.
Pro Tip: Help your child name their plant and create a small "Care Chart" where they can check off when they've watered it, making the responsibility feel important and official.
9. Dress-Up and Role-Playing Costumes
Putting on a costume is like stepping into another person's life. When a child dresses up as a firefighter, a chef, or a teacher, they are not just wearing clothes; they are adopting a role and a set of responsibilities. They imagine what that person's day is like, what challenges they face, and how they help others.
This is a full-body form of perspective-taking. It encourages them to think beyond their own immediate experience and consider the different jobs, lives, and contributions of people in their community. It builds respect and appreciation for the roles others play in the world.
Pro Tip: After a dress-up session, ask open-ended questions. "What was the hardest part about being a chef today?" or "What was your favorite part of helping people as a doctor?"
10. DIY "Kindness Jar" Kit
This is less a toy and more an interactive family project. A "Kindness Jar" kit simply includes a nice jar, some slips of colorful paper or pom-poms, and instructions. The goal is for family members to add a slip to the jar every time they witness or perform an act of kindness.
This activity shifts the family's focus towards actively looking for the good. It trains children to notice when someone shares, helps, or offers a kind word. Celebrating these small acts reinforces their importance and makes kindness a tangible, visible part of your family culture. It's a beautiful, visual representation of your collective empathy.
Pro Tip: Once the jar is full, celebrate! Do something fun as a family, like go for ice cream or have a movie night, to acknowledge all the positive energy you've built together.
11. Mindfulness and Calming Toys
A child cannot be empathetic towards others if they are overwhelmed by their own emotions. Mindfulness toys, such as calm-down jars (glitter jars), breathing buddies (a small stuffed animal to place on their belly), or sensory toys, teach the foundational skill of self-regulation.
These tools help children understand what's happening in their bodies when they feel a big emotion and give them a concrete strategy to find their center. By learning to manage their own feelings of anger or anxiety, they develop the emotional capacity to hold space for someone else's big feelings without becoming overwhelmed themselves. As I've learned from experts in the field, including Goh Ling Yong, self-awareness is the first step on the path to genuine empathy.
Pro Tip: Create a dedicated "cozy corner" or "peace place" in your home where these calming tools live. Make it a safe, comforting spot your child can go to when they need to regulate.
12. Nature Exploration Kits
A kit with binoculars, a magnifying glass, and a bug Catcher can open up a whole new world of wonder and respect for other creatures. When a child gets down on their hands and knees to watch a line of ants march by or uses binoculars to observe a bird building its nest, they are practicing quiet observation and appreciating a life very different from their own.
This kind of play fosters a sense of stewardship and connection to the natural world. It encourages questions that are surprisingly profound: Where is that squirrel going? Does that spider miss its family? It teaches them that every creature, no matter how small, has a purpose and a world of its own.
Pro Tip: Pair the kit with a simple nature journal. Encourage your child to draw or write about what they see, noting how the creatures behave and interact with their environment.
13. Global Culture Subscription Boxes
In 2025, raising global citizens is non-negotiable. Subscription boxes that focus on different countries and cultures are a fantastic way to broaden your child's worldview and build cross-cultural empathy. Each box typically includes stories, crafts, recipes, and activities related to a specific country.
This exposure helps break down stereotypes and teaches children that while people around the world may have different traditions or speak different languages, we all share common human experiences and emotions. It helps them see a child in Japan or Brazil not as "other," but as a kid just like them who loves to play, learn, and be with their family.
Pro Tip: Go all-in on the experience. When you get a box about Italy, try making the recipe for dinner and listening to Italian music. Immerse yourselves in the culture for a day.
14. Art Supplies for a Collaborative Mural
Set up a large piece of paper on a wall or the floor, provide a ton of art supplies, and give a simple theme like "Our Family" or "A Magical Forest." The key is that everyone works on the same piece of art. This is an exercise in negotiation, sharing space, and appreciating others' creative contributions.
Inevitably, someone will draw over someone else's creation. This is a perfect, low-stakes opportunity to practice conflict resolution and empathy. "How did it feel when I drew a tree over your flower? What could we do differently next time?" The final product is a beautiful testament to what you can create together.
Pro Tip: Resist the urge to direct the art. Let the children's ideas lead, even if it means the cat is purple and lives in the sky. The process is far more important than the product.
15. "All About Me" Journals
This might seem counterintuitive, but a deep understanding of oneself is the foundation for understanding others. Journals or activity books that prompt kids to explore their own likes, dislikes, strengths, fears, and dreams build crucial self-awareness.
When a child can identify and articulate their own feelings, they are much better equipped to recognize those same feelings in a friend. When they understand what makes them feel proud or embarrassed, they can more easily imagine what might make a classmate feel the same way. Empathy begins with introspection.
Pro Tip: Get a journal for yourself, too. Spend 10 minutes journaling alongside your child. It models the importance of self-reflection and opens the door for meaningful conversations.
16. Interactive Storytelling Devices (with guidance)
Technology can be a powerful empathy-engine when used mindfully. Devices like the Yoto Player or screen-free audio players allow children to immerse themselves in stories, which is one of the oldest and most effective ways to build empathy. Listening to a story requires them to visualize characters, imagine their worlds, and connect with their emotional journeys.
Look for interactive audio stories where kids can make choices that affect the outcome. These "choose your own adventure" style narratives teach them about consequences and how their decisions can impact the feelings and well-being of the characters in the story.
Pro Tip: Listen to a story together on a car ride. Afterwards, turn it off and discuss it. "Would you have made the same choice as the main character? Why or why not?"
17. Charity-Focused "Experience" Kits
The ultimate expression of empathy is action. Move beyond toys to "experience kits" that empower kids to make a real-world difference. This could be a pre-packaged kit for starting a lemonade stand for a cause, or a DIY kit you assemble yourself with materials to make blankets for an animal shelter or pack care kits for a local homeless shelter.
This takes empathy from an abstract concept to a tangible, impactful action. Children learn that their kindness can have a real, positive effect on their community. It shows them that they have the power not just to feel for others, but to do something to help. This is the pinnacle of emotional intelligence.
Pro Tip: Let your child help choose the cause they want to support. When they are personally invested in the "why," the experience will be infinitely more meaningful.
Play is the Work of the Heart
Building an empathy engine in your child isn't about having the most or the "best" toys. It's about being intentional with the tools we give them and, more importantly, engaging in play with them. These toys are simply catalysts for the conversations, the connections, and the "aha!" moments where they truly begin to understand the beautiful, complex inner world of another person.
By choosing toys that encourage collaboration, nurturing, and perspective-taking, we are giving our children the blueprints to build a more compassionate and emotionally intelligent future, one play session at a time.
Now it's your turn! What are your favorite toys for building empathy and emotional intelligence? Share your gems in the comments below—I'd love to learn from you!
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